Feeling tired of doing it alone?
Here is a tapping spell to embody the loving presence you’ve been longing for.
New to tapping? You can learn more here.
Begin by taking three slow, centering breaths.
As you start tapping gently on the side of your hand,
say the statements aloud or in your heart.
Then move through each tapping point, pausing as needed.
There is no wrong way to do this.
Follow your own rhythm
and go at your own pace.
If emotion rises, let it move through you.
Tears are part of the healing.
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Side of Hand: Even though part of me knows the truth –
That I am the loving Presence I’ve been longing for –
There’s another part of me that cries out: “I don’t want to be the one who meets my own needs!”
And I honor both parts. The wise one… and the weary one.
Even though I want to be able to hold myself,
Another part of me resents having to.
And I choose to listen with tenderness,
Not force myself into some polished idea of healing.
I am here with all of me.
The radiant and the reluctant.
The sovereign and the scared.
Even though a deep truth is rising –
That I am the one I’ve been waiting for –
There’s also grief here.
Grief that no one did this for me when I needed them most.
And I honor that grief as sacred too.
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Eyebrow: There’s a voice in me that says:
“You are the Presence. You are the one.”
Side of Eye: But there’s another voice that cries:
“I don’t want to have to be the one!”
Under Eye: This protest is not a problem.
It’s a part of me that’s been abandoned too many times.
Under Nose: She’s tired. She’s hurting. And she deserves my care.
Chin: Not my rejection. Not my pressure. But my presence.
Collarbone: I don’t need to push her away. I can hold her in my arms.
Under Arm: She doesn’t want to do it all herself. Of course she doesn’t.
Top of Head: She was never meant to.
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Eyebrow: I am becoming the caregiver I always needed. But that doesn’t mean pretending it’s easy.
Side of Eye: I can say: “Sweetheart, of course you don’t want to do this alone.”
Under Eye: “Of course you want someone to show up for you.”
Under Nose: “You’ve carried too much for too long.”
Chin: “And now I’m here. I will carry it with you.”
Collarbone: I’m not bypassing her pain. I’m turning toward it with reverence.
Under Arm: Not as a burden… but as a blessing.
Top of Head: She is not resisting me. She’s asking for reassurance.
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Eyebrow: I can whisper gently… “I’m here, Love.”
Side of Eye: “I’m not abandoning you to figure this out alone.”
Under Eye: “I see how hard it’s been to be the responsible one.”
Under Nose: “I see how much you’ve longed to be held.”
Chin: And now, I offer myself as a sanctuary.
Collarbone: Not because I have to…
Under Arm: But because I get to love myself in this way.
Top of Head: Slowly. Softly. Sacredly.
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Eyebrow: I am the lovingly responsive Presence I’ve been aching for.
Side of Eye: Not perfectly. Not always easily.
Under Eye: But consistently enough to matter.
Under Nose: I am the one who says, “Your needs are not too much.”
Chin: “Your tears are not a problem.”
Collarbone: “Your resistance is not wrong.”
Under Arm: “Your ache is holy.”
Top of Head: “And I will stay with you through it all.”
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Eyebrow: This is how I rewire the fear that I’m not OK on my own.
Side of Eye: Not by shaming the ache, but by meeting it – again and again.
Under Eye: With warmth. With compassion. With devotion.
Under Nose: This is how I become the one I’ve been waiting for.
Chin: Not because I should…
Collarbone: But because I can.
Under Arm: I am discovering the capacity that was always within me.
Top of Head: I am home, in my own presence.
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Eyebrow: I am the soft place I long to land.
Side of Eye: I am the breath that steadies me.
Under Eye: I am the arms that hold me when it hurts.
Under Nose: I am the sacred pause that says, “Yes, Love. I hear you.”
Chin: I am not alone. I am with myself now.
Collarbone: Truth, tenderness, and trust – all unfolding within me.
Under Arm: The part that knows. The part that resists. All of them belong.
Top of Head: I am the one I’ve been longing for. And I am the one who stays.
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Close with another slow, deep breath.
Feel into the shift, however subtle.
You don’t have to rush to action – just notice what softened.
Place a hand on your heart.
Let these words linger a little longer.
The ritual is now complete.