It was tax time, and I was sitting in front of my laptop crunching numbers. But beyond the spreadsheet, a deeper calculation was occupying my mind, activating a familiar tightness in my chest and tension in my belly.
I was in the middle of an EFT Coaching Certification, feeling pressure around starting my own coaching practice (at some point in the future) and asking myself…Do I even have the capacity to build and sustain a business around nervous system healing?
The logical next steps would be to register a business name, build a website, start marketing myself. But instead of being inspired and motivated, I felt paralyzed.
A part of me was terrified that managing a business would require too much time and energy. That I would have to hustle myself into depletion and sacrifice the meaningful connections I had been cultivating so intentionally to make the business work.
So, I started tapping.
Not to force my fear away.
Not to “clear” the resistance.
But to be with it.
To breathe with it.
And it started like this:
Even though I know what I want…
And I long for the freedom and fulfillment of having my own business…
I’m scared I don’t have the capacity to build it…
I deeply honor this fear, and I honor the part of me that still wants this dream.
As I continued tapping, something shifted.
Not all at once, but enough to hear what was alive beneath the fear.
Not a business plan.
Not a marketing strategy.
But a realm.
A remembering.
That’s how Unfurlia began to reveal itself as the sanctuary I needed to feel safe enough moving toward this vision – but at my own pace.
This practice of meeting resistance with presence has changed everything. I no longer approach healing as a relentless self-improvement project where I keep pushing myself to be better and do more.
And I don’t ask my pain to leave.
I invite it to speak.
Then I listen with an open heart,
knowing this fear is just a part of me-
alert, protective, and doing its best to keep me safe.
The one who listens with compassion,
breathes with presence,
and welcomes the whole experience –
that is my grounded, centered, resourced Self.
The Awareness-That-I-AM which has infinite capacity
to hold whatever arises in the bodymind.
This is the sacred reunion of the feminine and masculine within:
The ache, and the awareness.
The tremble, and the tending.
The storm, and the stillness.
In my experience, when fear is held with compassion and unconditional acceptance, it almost magically softens on its own, loosens its grip on me, freeing up energy and creating space for new clarity to guide me to the Good Next Steps that support my vision.
That’s why I call my EFT scripts “tapping spells” – because each round is a ritual, each phrase an incantation, inviting the bodymind back into safety and Self.
They don’t just soothe the system, they shift the internal landscape – transmuting the energy of overwhelm into openness.
This is the emotional alchemy of allowing.
This is the power of meeting pressure with presence.
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If you’d like to explore further,
you can learn more about tapping
or spend some time with this tapping spell.